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About Jay
"I've fallen many times, I just don't stay there"
About Jay
My Journey
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Having battled with my own emotional health & trauma over the years I found the downward spiral almost becomes a comfortable excuse to accept that life has won & will never get any better.
I`ve experienced failed suicide attempts, homelessness, teenage pregnancy, verbal, mental & domestic abuse, yet I just knew there had to be more to life than that. More to life than painful experiences.
It was after my second child, trapped in a toxic relationship with a world class narcissist that I found myself down the rabbit hole of depression. So I went to my local GP for a 'miracle cure' - I honestly don’t know what I expected, I just needed someone or something to make it better & make the awful feelings go away. I felt I had no-one in my life that I could be completely transparent & vulnerable with at that time, trust was very low & it was then that I learned loneliness can be an extremely dangerous place, especially when you do not love & value yourself. My GP prescribed anti-depressants & even though I went to the chemist to collect my prescription, I knew they weren’t for me or what I truly needed, so i never took them.
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I decided that I had to find another way & that is what I want to share with you.
My Soul Goal is to assist you on your healing journey!
My Journey
At my lowest point I was referred to a counsellor but that didn’t help. I wasn’t a talker, not everyone is when they have experienced certain traumas. I was very closed & found it hard to just talk. The words would be there, they just wouldn't come out. From a young age I would always prefer to do my talking in my diary. Little did I know I was mastering the art of journaling long before I knew it was even a thing.
So there I was, stuck in a world of loneliness, anti-depressants I wasn't comfortable taking and a counsellor who just sat there making the right sounds until the end of the session. No, I wasn’t very good at speaking then and she didn't seem too interested in me either to be fair. At this point, I decided to start unlearning so I could relearn again.
One book led to another. One motivational speech to another. One affirmation to many more affirmations, shaping my newfound routine to name a few. I found people to follow who I felt were empowering. I implemented all that I was learning and slowly but surely I started to see incredible change. I have to share & help others do the same.
Observing increasing despair & uncertainty around me (in 2020) made me want to take the leap to be `that` supportive person to others. So I decided to make my future self proud by studying and qualifying so I could learn how best to help you and give you the support & tools needed to thrive & get your wings back, providing real fulfilment. Sharing my personal journey to support & guide you through your toughest times, understanding some of what you might be going through, through real life experience which is the best teacher in my opinion, it is what I believe makes me unique... I can actually relate.
Emotional Health & well-being is extremely important & something I feel is not talked about or explored enough other than when we explore mental health or when things get chaotic rather than implementing the tools to maintain a healthy mindset. Assisting you in understanding & working through your emotions so you are not consumed by them, is the ultimate goal. When we fail to love ourselves first, we can fall into the trap of becoming dependent or giving too much too soon & feeling depleted when that same level of love is not reciprocated.
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It was necessary to go through every experience, to be able to help others. I no longer carry those experiences or trauma as a burden instead I carry those same experiences & trauma as my greatest strength!
